I was asked who influenced me to go into my current career, and got to thinking. My whole life, people with good intentions, some with not so good intentions as well, influenced me. However, the majority lacked the ability to communicate and see past their limitations and their judgments. All but my dad. He began speaking to me in positive ways. He refused to let me and my sister say “I can’t.” He forbade complaining beyond a simple statement. This was the beginning. He planted seeds at a very young age. Letting us know our beliefs were just that, beliefs. Not all of them are true. He supported us as a parent and a friend in ways that most people didn’t. He spoke to us in an adult manner and taught us to ask questions. He led by example and taught us how to communicate effectively. Throughout my struggles and successes, we ended up teaching each other a lot of lessons. Along with the lessons he helped lead me to becoming my most authentic self. He showed me new ways to tap into my mind, body, and spirit. He included my sister and many others in his journey towards a life of joy. He emulates all the qualities and values I hold dear. So when I think about influences, my dad is first on my mind. Another important influence was my mom. She showed me a strength I never would’ve known until I saw it in her first. She showed me how to fight for yourself when it seems the world is against you. She showed me that even when you struggle, and fight for the things you believe in, love always what wins. These experiences have guided me on my journey. I have moved beyond my comfort zone with her and anyone else who challenged the belief that I’m lovable. I decided to move ahead in a career that is based on self love. Where you challenge and reprogram old beliefs. Where you learn how to regulate your nervous system. Where you connect with people who are on the same path. I believe my purpose was to struggle, learn, love and then show others how to do the same. I am writing a new story. I have created a new life, with new believes and they’re all coming together in the most fantastic ways. I am more than grateful. I fuckin love it here!
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Looking Back
I saw something today while reading that said” go back to your childhood and look at the all the things you obsessed over. It will give you a wonderful insight towards your purpose” So, I sat and rewound the tapes of time. I can remember around 7 ish sitting at my dad’s old office desk and being “in charge” I used that same desk to teach all my dolls their schoolwork. I remember taking those baby dolls everywhere I went, each of them had a first, middle, and last name. I still remember each of their names. I remember being outside and loving the time I spent outdoors, if the kids only had a playground like we had back in the day. Those old wooden playgrounds with big slides and gigantic tire swings. The ones you watch all your friends do really dumb ass shit on 😂 I remember playing basketball all summer outside with my friends. As I walk through my memories and compare them to what I’m doing today I’d say I’m on the right path. I’m definitely walking towards my purpose. There was a time I had no clue what my purpose was, but I chose to have faith in the unknown. Turns out, it’s paying off in ways I may have never imagined. I am in a position to help guide others on their path. To Help empower them and know their self worth. I am able to sit with my kids and their friends and teach them things I’ve learned, and answer their questions from a place of love, understanding and non judgment. I am in a position where there are people who count on me and trust me. I know when I spend time in nature it recharges my energy and gives me a sense of peace. On top of all that I’m able to watch my sons play basketball and watch their dreams come to life. That being said, I believe the article was right. When you focus on the things that fill your soul with joy, that’s an indication you’re walking in your purpose. Each day there’s something new for me to learn. My purpose becomes a little more clear and so does the direction I’m headed. I remind myself often that I’m exactly where I’m meant to be. There is no rushing towards the destination when we talk about purpose. It’s all in the journey. In the journey is where you find happiness ❤️
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Sharing Thoughts
At my favorite coffee shop, I sit here on my computer, sipping my coffee. I hear music in the background. The sound of cars zipping by on the freshly rained on street accompanies the music. The calm sets in. I love these days. My cup is overflowing, no more half full anything. I am so grateful for all the ways my life has changed. Through the struggles I have encountered, I came to know my strengths. I came to know a version of me that I never knew. I am able to just be. The calm of the life I have now is irreplaceable.
I had a moment today when I didn’t feel like doing a damn thing. That moment was short lived. You see, when I started on this journey, I made some promises to myself. One of them is to always keep my promises. I started this blog and writing consistently because I wanted to grow in new ways. I always said, ” I’m not a writer” then I thought why not? Who the hell told me I wasn’t? I may not be the best at it. However, it is something I enjoy. It is a skill that I’m working on in different ways. The moment I didn’t want to do a damn thing I reminded myself of my promise. I reminded myself how good it feels to complete the things you start. I hold myself accountable, even in the moments when I don’t feel like it. I believe all our thoughts and ideas deserve a space outside of our head. I recognize my thoughts in this way. This acknowledgment also gives me permission to release the shit that isn’t serving me any longer. They say that the average person has around 6000 thoughts a day. A lot of those thoughts carry charged emotions. What better way to send off some unwanted stuff then writing it down. So far, the thoughts I’ve had today are about sharing. Sharing some of the shit that comes to my mind. About moving through the emotions that come with being a human that may overthink things sometimes. I share with others that there are days I don’t want to do a damn thing. But I do it anyway because it will feel good. I share that there are days when old fears set in. I remind myself that I am where I am today, because I face my fears head on. We don’t fold around here, we keep it moving. I share that because I never gave up on myself, I have become the love I was always searching for. I share with you to look within; you’ll find all the answers and all the courage you’ll ever need. I share with you these thoughts because maybe someone needed to hear today that it’s ok to have fear. It’s ok to overthink, and it’s ok to not want to do a damn thing. Take care of yourself. Feel free to share your thoughts with me, I’d love to hear them.
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Choices
Thinking about love. My sister read to me a passage in one of her books that said “love is the bridge between you and everything”. I felt these words so deeply. Our lives are all a reflection of our choices. We make choices on what to do each day. We choose how to live, how to view the world around us, and how to change. We may choose to become better, or we choose not to. With life at the whim of each choice we make it is love that bridges us to our desired reality. On every level love is behind the choices we make. Some will say that there are people who don’t love, they hate. I say that their hate is a desperate cry for love. We’re all made of the same thing. we are just learning different lessons on love, at different times. When I focus on the feeling of love, I literally get goosebumps. It’s a chill of delight and joy. This is how I want to focus my energy all the time. I know there is an eb and flow to life, and I respect that. I also respect that I have the choice to choose to love no matter how funky shit gets. I’m here for the journey, and I fuckin love it here!
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New motion
Setting my goals high. I’ve been working pretty diligently for the past 5 years on myself, becoming more of the person I know I can be. While putting in the time and effort to do so I have come across a few things that definitely deserve my attention. First one; how financially illiterate I am. I realized as I started these businesses that I don’t know shit about shit lol I am definitely a beginner in this area, which is good because I get to learn some great habits from my mentors. Also, I’ve learned that some of my financial habits could use some attention. I’m not going to go into detail, but when I take some time and realize the amount of money I save and the amount of money spent in certain areas, It begs for me to learn more. In fact I have been asking myself a question before everything I buy. Do I need this, or do I want it? It stops me (the majority of the time) from buying the things I don’t necessarily need. Admittedly, I like new things and I’m working on replacing my spending habits with something more useful. That was another A HA moment, I buy dumb shit and spend frivolously as a coping mechanism. I end up with clothes I don’t need, other useless stuff that takes up space and energy that could be replaced by a sense of peace instead. I say peace because the extra stuff is just a physical manifestation of chaos that consumes my head at times. I’ve found that when I keep my personal space free and clear of mess, the chaos in my mind is also reduced. It also an indication that I could use some time to slow down. I am grateful that I am now able to observe my behaviors and learn from them. So as I move towards my goals, with financial ones at the top, I move intentionally. I move as a beginner, and give myself grace as needed. I also learn, and stop making the same mistakes I once did.
Do you have any financial advice you wish you knew sooner?
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Gratitude
What’s one thing that has made today easier?
There are so many things about my day that have become easier with an attitude of gratitude. I can remember a time when my days were filled with confusion, lack of confidence, lack of self love and respect. The past 5 years have been some of the most important years of my life. I learned how to love myself. I learned that growth happens independently, it truly is a self made journey. I learned that people I thought I loved were just a reflection of the love I have within me. I learned that the mirror doesn’t smile before I do. I learned that I may be by myself, but I’m never alone. I’ve learned to love the time I get to spend with myself. I learned self care isn’t selfish, it’s an absolute necessity . I learned that gratitude is the way to a life focused on love and authenticity so when I’m asked to think of one thing that has made my day easier, I would say gratitude. Gratitude has made it easy for me to find light in all the dark places. Gratitude has changed my life in every way imaginable. I have become a more loving, understanding, and empathic human being. Gratitude showed me that the most important things in life are the things you can’t see, but definitely feel. Gratitude has opened my eyes to the true beauty of life and showed me that happiness is found within and then will show up in your reality. Message of the day, to move with ease and flow tap into your heart space and remember to be grateful. -
My Commitment to Self-Discovery and Growth
My Journey Begins – Embracing the Path to Self-Discovery
Welcome to the beginning of something new—something raw, real, and personal. This blog marks the start of my commitment to self-discovery, a space where I challenge myself to show up, write consistently, and grow—not just as a writer, but as a person.
For years, I’ve navigated the highs and lows of transformation, pushing past limiting beliefs, stepping into my power, and learning what it truly means to embrace authenticity. Writing has always been a part of me, but now, I’m making it a priority—a way to express my thoughts, connect with others, and document the journey.
This isn’t just about me, though. My hope is that through my words, you’ll see pieces of your own story reflected back. Maybe you’re on your own path of self-discovery. Maybe you’ve struggled with confidence, purpose, or finding your voice. Or maybe, like me, you’re just ready to take a leap into something new.
Eventually, this blog will evolve into something bigger than just me. I can’t wait to see where we end up!
So, let’s begin. Let’s embrace the path ahead together.
~Kristen
What’s one thing you’re hoping to discover about yourself? Drop a comment—I’d love to hear your thoughts.
The Journey Continues 